Only you, unless you decide otherwise. Your spouse writes the report, but they do not see the grade it produces. You can switch sharing on from your account at any time, and switch it back off.
No. You each have your own. Your GPA comes from the reports your spouse writes about you; theirs comes from the reports you write about them. They are usually different, and that is the point.
Leave it out. You choose which of the 29 categories count toward your grade, and both of you have to agree before one is included. If you have no children, Parenting simply never appears — it does not sit at zero dragging your GPA down.
The same applies to anything you would rather not be graded on. Sensitive areas like intimacy are off by default and only count if you both deliberately turn them on.
No. If either of you has a category switched off, it is not graded for either person. Turning something off does not require a conversation — your spouse simply sees that it is not active.
Pairing, daily check-ins, your private GPA, your report card and your history — with reports covering Communication in real depth: listening, understanding, openness, tone, availability, repair, everyday connection and hard conversations.
Full membership opens all 29 categories and lets you choose which ones count. You can see the price once you have an account — starting is free and needs no card.
Only one spouse needs to pay. One subscription covers both of you.
Every answer maps to a point value — Excellent 4, Good 3, Average 2, Needs Improvement 1, Poor 0. "Not applicable" is left out of the maths entirely rather than counted as a zero. Your category grade is the average of the answers in that category, and your Spouse GPA is the average across every applicable answer, from 0.00 to 4.00.
No. Check-ins are a private habit tracker between reports. They never move anyone's GPA.
Not your individual answers, and never your interview responses. The one exception is the optional "special note" at the end of a report — that is written deliberately for them to read, and you can leave it blank.
Nothing is deleted. Your report history stays available, and you can disconnect from your spouse at any time from the Couple screen.
